Ashley Davis Bush, LICSW

  •  Are you living with passion and purpose?
  • Have the strains of loss, stress, or conflict sapped the joy from your life?

Ashley Davis Bush can help you.   She offers articles, videos, books, and one-on-one counseling (via phone, Skype, or in-person) to help you experience a deeper, more satisfying life.

Ashley is a psychotherapist, Huffington Post blogger, a self-help author, and radio personality with over 25 years of professional experience. Ashley believes that each of life’s challenges offers us opportunities for personal and spiritual growth.  Ashley is passionate about providing simple, specific tools to help deepen and enrich your life, starting today.

Latest Blog Posts:

Requiem

Requiem . . . Latin for “rest.”  It comforts me to imagine a resting place of heavenly peace for all those whom we have loved and lost;  a place where they are granted a peace so sublime that there is no fear, no anxiety, no depression, no pain, no financial woes, no worries.  In this place there is an abiding peace that passeth all understanding.

From the “Pie Jesu” of Faure’s Requiem Mass I sing these words: “O blessed Jesus, in thy mercy grant them rest, grant them everlasting rest.”  When I sing, I imagine the spirits of so many who have departed this world.  I think of the loved ones of my clients.  I think of the people I read about in the newspapers.  I think of friends and relatives that have come and gone on the planet.

When I imagine my loved ones at rest, I think of them as vibrant and happy.  I imagine them freed from the confines of their worldly circumstances.  

Death may seem scary, but Rest seems quite wonderful.  May all our dear ones who are no longer on this planet rest in the deepest peace.

Be Curious, Not Furious

Curiosity may have killed the cat but it will  do wonders for your relationship.  The next time your partner, colleague, teenager, parent, or annoying friend does something that triggers your anger, stop . . . breathe . . . and be curious.  Take these three steps away from conflict.

1. Defuse your defensiveness.

Think to yourself: 

I wonder why they’re saying that?

I wonder why they’re behaving that way?

I wonder if they’re suffering?

I wonder what pain is under their anger?

2. Turn the flashlight to yourself.  

Think to yourself:

I wonder why I’m feeling so agitated?

I wonder why I want to behave defensively?

I wonder if I’m suffering?

I wonder what pain is under my anger?

3. Then cultivate a sense of curiosity.

Think to yourself:

I wonder how we can get out of this mess?

I wonder if we can grow together through this?

I wonder if we’ll ever have perspective on this conflict?

I wonder what they’re teaching me?

I wonder what I’m learning?

Healthy Grieving

Because loss is a natural part of living, so too is grief a natural process that we need to understand. Most of us will be on that path sooner or later. Knowing some of the elements of healthy grieving sheds light on the process, illuminating the human journey.  

Click Here to read the rest on Huffington Post

Will You Be My Valentine?

Valentine’s day can be so much more than just a day to acknowledge your sweetheart.  It can also be a day to honor love and appreciation of all kinds.  

So I want to acknowledge and honor YOU, my readers.  I am grateful for your kind comments and your loving support.  It is my privilege to correspond and share with you!

And I want to remind you that love of all kinds – whether your dear one is here on this planet or not – is rich and vast and worthy of celebration.  Embrace all of your Valentines and know that love is the sweetest energy on earth.

Wishing you love,

Ashley

P.S.  For those of you who are in romantic relationships, check out my two latest resources.  For an article that I wrote for the Huffington Post “Is Your Relationship Leaking” click HERE.  And for an article that I was interviewed for about how couple can connect click HERE

When A Dream Is More Than A Dream

I was lying there with him on the blue rug in my home office.  He was youthful and energetic, kicking his furry legs out joyfully — a playful gesture that I had always called “Kangaroo Jack.”  I felt his fur.  I nuzzled his neck.  I smelled his earthy dog smell.  It was heavenly.

My daughter Elizabeth, who is away at college, walked in and sat down with us.  I said, excitedly, “I can’t believe that Hickory is here!”  Elizabeth answered, “I know, isn’t it great?  He’s visiting through the space-time continuum.”  Hmmmm.  I considered that . . . and then I woke up.

My first thought, upon waking, was I’m so happy that Hickory visited me!  I had been waiting and hoping that I would get some felt sense of him ever since we sent him to the Rainbow Bridge last December.  Upon reflection, I’m certain that he visited me in my dream.  And I know it was a gift.

Loving and losing is such a profound jolt to our mind, bodies, and spirits.  Whether we lose a beloved person or pet, it is the nature of the relationship that dictates how deeply we are affected.  I miss Hickory every day but I am elated that he came for a visit.  Next time, I’ll be sure to have biscuit ready for him.