I recently read the excellent book Enjoy Every Sandwich: Living Each Day As If It Were Your Last by Lee Lipsenthal, MD. Lee was a doctor, diagnosed with esophagal cancer, who proceeded to write a book about what he was learning in the process of facing his mortality. What makes the book especially poignant, is that the author died just 6 weeks before the book was published.
One perspective that I found especially helpful was turning the idea of a bucket list on its head. So many of us hold a mental check list, popularized by media such as The Bucket List film (starring Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson) and the “Places to see before you die . . . ” book series. But Lee pointed out, upon facing his own death, that it really didn’t matter whether he had seen the Pyramids in Egypt or eaten Thai food in Thailand.
The only thing that really mattered to him was loving and being loved. Period. I suppose a life could be measured by accumulated vacations — and certainly, those experiences can be wonderful. But at the end of the day (or the end of a life) love is all that really matters. Have you put ‘love’ on your bucket list?
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Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW is the author of