The Do’s and Don’ts of Divorcing Well

Divorcing Well Do’s

1. Do use boundaries for civil communication.

     – Use email if face-to-face conversations are too difficult.

2. Do remember that your children are ½ your spouse’s DNA.

     – And therefore speak respectfully about your soon-to-be-ex.

3. Do own your part in the relationship.

     – It will help you in future relationships to recognize your role in the breakdown of the marriage.

4. Do be open and fair about finances.

     – It will cost you financially and emotionally to create and prolong a battle.

5. Do move on to the new chapter of your life.

     – When you treat your divorce as the beginning rather than the end a whole new world awaits you.

Divorcing Well Don’ts

1. Don’t hire a killer attorney.

     – Do hire a collaborative attorney.

2. Don’t treat your spouse like they’re the enemy.

     – When you treat your soon-to-be-ex like the enemy, it creates a hostile environment in which both parties lose.

3. Don’t badmouth your spouse around others.

     – It generates an environment of negativity in which you will become a victim also.

4. Don’t deny the children access to their parent.

     – Children need both parents in their lives.

5. Don’t wallow in the ‘tragedy’ of your life.

     – Focus on the blessings in your life and the lessons in this loss.

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