I recently listened to a guided meditation that was not only interesting, but quite enlightening. The soft female voice asked me to “jump into my partner’s body.” I thought to myself, What? “Don’t think too hard about it, just leap,” she continued. So I ‘leapt’ into Dan’s body.
From this new vantage point, I walked down the street, lifted things, touched things, saw life from the perspective of a 230 lb, 6’5″ male. Through his eyes, I imagined his childhood as he experienced it. I came home from work and greeted myself from his perspective. It was, shall we say, eye opening.
The point of the exercise is to develop empathy and compassion for the other. You can imagine a body exchange with anyone in your life – your boss, your children, your aging mother. This really brings the idea of walking in another’s shoes to life.
When we judge our loved one’s behavior from our own perspective, it is temptingly easy to blame or criticism them. But this tendency softens when we discover the world through their eyes and in their skin. Try this exercise for yourself and see if your relationships become more tender – and more peaceful.
Expcerpted from the Newsletter,
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW is the author of