If you’re feeling more Grinch than Santa, more Scrooge than Elf, then you may need a little extra dose of tender loving care. And guess who is the best person to provide this TLC? YOU are.
Self-compassion practices are remarkably effective in helping you feel supported and understood. You come to internalize that YOU have your own back. You validate your own experience. Here’s how it works, in 3 easy steps:
- Name your suffering
- Universalize it
- Apply loving kindness
Sounds simple, right? But how do you actually do it? Your script might be something like this . . .
- I notice that I’m feeling really grumpy this holiday season. I don’t like the darkness or the cold. I hate the pressure to spend more than I have and give the perfect gift to my family members. I feel (fill in the blank): lonely, sad, depressed, stressed, grief-stricken, hopeless, bored, defeated.
- I know that I am not the only person to feel this way, not at the holidays and not ever. There are millions of people around the world who know what this particular experience feels like. I am not alone.
- (Holding your hand over your heart). I’m going to be ok. In fact, I am ok. I can get through this. May I know some peace. May I know some happiness. May I open my heart to myself. May I rest in serenity and love.
That’s it. Use this practice every day, several times a day. And know that this season will pass, just as all the others eventually do.