When I began my training as a psychotherapist over twenty years ago, I was assigned to work with a middle-aged woman whose sister had recently been murdered.  There I was, a young professional with very little life experience who had, until a few months previously, been pushing paper in a PR firm.  And yet I was asked to console this woman paralyzed by grief.

 To my surprise, I did just that.  I was able to listen compassionately and nonjudgmentally.  Inexplicably really, I could hear and understand her pain.  And I knew without a doubt that I had a calling to work with grievers, to help people in emotional pain. (more…)

“When one door closes, another door opens.”  I have always found this expression to be so comforting.  Even when it takes awhile to determine what door has opened and where, it always seems to be true.

I extend my thanks again for your support over these two years of blogging.  I have received so many kind and thoughtful responses, which I deeply appreciate.  As the “Transitions . . . where endings meet beginnings” blog ends, so begins the monthly newsletter, “Still Waters:  Tools and Resources for Living Deeply.” (more…)

I recently heard of a friend’s mother’s dying process.  “It’s just awful,” my friend said, “they’ve got hospice in the house and she’s just got a few days left.”  Meanwhile, I learned that this elderly woman is surrounded by her husband, children, and grandchildren, all of whom have had an opportunity to share their love. (more…)

I’m a Gleek, a devoted fan of the Fox show “Glee.”  I’ve been watching avidly for two years.  Although it’s a musical drama about a high school glee club, they sensitively tackle serious subjects like bullying, homosexuality, teen pregnancy, divorce, and now death.

As a grief therapist, I was curious to see how they might treat this subject in the most recent episode, “Funeral.”  Sue Sylvester (the viciously cruel gym teacher) lost her beloved sister and was devastated.  She shut down in her pain. (more…)

The Gallup poll has come up with a statistical composite for the happiest person in America.  He is a tall Asian American, observant Jew, over 65, married with children, live in Hawaii, run his own business, and have a household income of over $120,000. (more…)