We have been waiting months to learn where our daughter will be going to college this fall. When the day finally came, we learned that her top college put her on their wait list . . . and so we wait some more.
I am reminded of all the times I’ve fretted and hurried in anticipation, only to receive information that required me to wait yet again. Waiting for medical results, acceptances, test outcomes, news – and more often than not, each temporary relief led me to more waiting, more uncertainty.
Now when I find myself in that awkward place of impatience, anxious for how things will turn out, I make a list (and I’m not referring to grocery items): “What do I need to remember?” I ask myself. “What’s important in my life? What am I grateful for?”
Usually this list redirects me, gives me perspective, and helps me realize that waiting in life is chronic but impatience is a choice. Although accepting uncertainty is a lesson hard learned for a young lady on the verge of a new life, I review my list and choose gratitude.
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW is the author of
“Transcending Loss: Understanding the Lifelong Impact of Grief and How to Make it Meaningful”
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